Your Journey to Joy: Reclaiming Intimacy Through the 7th Sense

by Jaci / Jay Daley

Have you ever felt or been told that you’re too much? Too spacy, too demanding, too affectionate or too emotional or too sensitive?  I was all of that, and it wasn’t until I found the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough system that I found out why and began to feel at ease with myself.

I realized that by combining massage and bodywork with the Erotic Blueprints and Colour Mirrors system, it  can significantly amplify healing by directly engaging the body's physical and energetic layers. Massage and bodywork act as a bridge, grounding the conceptual insights from the blueprints and the energetic wisdom of the colors into tangible, felt experiences.

In essence, the combination provides a powerful feedback loop. The Erotic Blueprints and Colour Mirrors offer a profound roadmap and energetic guidance, while massage and bodywork provide the vehicle for the journey, ensuring that the healing is not just mental or emotional but is deeply integrated into your physical being.

Let's take a deeper look.

Do you remember that iconic scene from When Harry Met Sally, where Sally's unabashed expression of ecstasy prompts the woman at the next table to declare, "I'll have what she's having!"? It speaks to a universal truth: we all desire a life filled with that kind of joy and connection. But what truly lights you up? Do you even know? I'm here to help you discover that, to help you pursue that joy.

I'm Jay, a bodyworker, healer, coach, and joy activator, and I believe the key to unlocking this joy is our 7th sense: our innate desire for connection and joy.

My own journey taught me this firsthand. My husband and I had fallen into a rigid schedule for intimacy—every Saturday, and only if he was in the mood. I tried to reignite our spark by enrolling us in ballroom dancing classes, hoping for a beautiful, effortless connection. Instead, it was a disaster. We were out of sync, stepping on each other's toes, and felt more like strangers colliding than birds in a harmonious flock. My attempt to create intimacy backfired, leading to disappointment and disconnection. That's when I realized my 7th sense was driving me toward a solution, but I lacked the right tools.

This realization was mirrored in a client of mine, Amy, who felt sad, lonely, and hopeless after 25 years of marriage. She believed that change wasn't possible. But by working together, she and her husband learned to communicate in each other's intimacy languages, and now they are having fun, planning adventure dates, and exuding a sparkly energy of joy.

This experience taught me that the first essential ingredient for change is belief. You have to believe that something different, something better, is possible. Without that belief, you won't go looking for it, and you'll miss out on the "deliciousness and juiciness of life."

But belief is not enough. The second crucial ingredient is willingness. During the pandemic, I knew I had to find a new way to work. After months of research, I discovered Erotic Blueprint coaching. It was a massive financial and personal commitment, but I had a strong feeling it was the right path. I had to be willing to be uncomfortable, to become a student again, and to step into the unknown with no guarantees.

Willingness is transformative. It changes your brain, making your mind and heart more open. This open-minded, open-hearted approach is what leads to true growth and healing. This is why I integrate color therapy into my healing work—it's a way of connecting our physical bodies with our spirits. Our senses are how we interface with the world, and we need a willingness to look deeper into our 6th and 7th senses to find true connection.

The heart is the associated body part of the 7th sense. It's the organ of connection, joy, and emotional well-being. The HEARTMATH Institute's research shows that a harmonious heart-brain connection is key to resilience and deep connection with others. The fundamental human need for connection is so strong that social isolation is one of the worst punishments in prisons, and the loneliness felt during the COVID-19 pandemic and events like Hurricane Helene proves its vital importance.

To truly understand our heart's desire for connection, we can explore the five erotic blueprints. These are like love languages for intimacy and can help you and your partner communicate your needs. Matching the Colour Mirrors bottles to the Erotic Blueprints was lots of fun and the best past is that when couples have a hard time matching or learning each other’s Erotic Blueprint, they can get in a bath with the bottles relating to that Blueprint and grow into it from an energetic place. Here are the Blueprints with the associated bottles:

Understanding your own blueprint, as well as your partner's, can bridge communication gaps. For example, my client Sarah, who was a Sensual blueprint, felt unseen because she needed a romantic environment. Her husband Mark, an Energetic blueprint, needed anticipation and emotional connection. By understanding these differences, they shifted their focus to creating a relaxing environment and nurturing their emotional bond, which deepened their connection more than ever.

The final, and most important, ingredient is action. You can have belief and willingness, but if you do nothing, nothing will change. I am living proof of this. After completing my certification, I did nothing for a year. Nothing changed. It was only when I saw the opportunity to speak at this summit and took the uncomfortable action to get here that I could share this powerful message with you.

Are you willing to take action to transform your life, your intimacy and bring more joy into it? You can have more joy and better intimacy—it's possible, with the help of Colour Mirrors and the Erotic Blueprint System. 

If you're intrigued, I invite you to join me for a 1:1 call, We will dive into your personal identity and learn your intimacy language and help you uplevel your intimacy and joy.